There are severat ways you can get onto your aerial hoop.
We will use this movie as a reference becouse poses are clear, named, and nicely done:
First way to get onto hoop is:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1CKyt_9ZrQ and trying to do it as slow as you can. It will build your muscles and make it strong. Just remember to do is slooooow :).
If you feel that you are still not strong enough try to work on your abs mouscles, it will help and if you will practise everyday effects will shock you! :)
As I said, you shouldn't jump into poses. This is really important.
If you jump into something that means you're not ready to do it properly.
I understand that you may want to do all that crazy stuff but don't forget about basics, they make aerial hoop performances smooth and pretty, so you should understand that they are REALLY important! :)